There are two types life actions in this world, Wish I Had/I’m Glad I Did

For so long I’ve been living my life as the wish I had person, finishing college, having a successful career etc. I’ve also had so many amazing, I’m glad I did moments. Even in the teary soul crushing days I’m glad I had those too. They have forever shaped me.

For the rest of my walk I will strive to have less of, I wish I hads and will fearlessly say yes and look back at my life and say….GIRL I’M GLAD I DID💛

For so long we tend to live our lives based on how our parents/parent did it. How our siblings or even best friends are going about it.

I’ve chosen to live my life, making it exactly what I WANT IT TO BE😏

I’ve learned that I can’t go after my life with such aggression and feeling overwhelmed.

I have to take it… ONE STEP, ONE PUNCH, ONE ROUND AT A TIME🥊🥊🥊🥊

Stability the quality, state, or degree of being stable. I want to pose a question to you, in which I had to pose to myself. Which would you prefer EMOTIONAL or MATERIAL STABILITY in a relationship??

Me personally I want emotional stability. Having material things is nice don’t get me wrong. The car, the house, trips, money etc anything you could ever want. But what happens when your partner can’t communicate or show you the vulnerability that’s needed. The love that’s needed to sustain the mental spiritual and physical parts in a relationship. When you’re trying to figure out and understand someone and they just show it through another trip or some money.

When things get out of control and they’re not working out all you are left with is the shell of that house. What matters is the inside and if it’s not solid it will dissolve.

Which will you choose??

Thanks for the convo my SisterLove❤️

Most recently I hung out with my girls one night and we had some deep conversations. The focus was moved to someone’s feet.

We tend to look at our feet as bad, cute, ugly, or one toe maybe bigger than the other. They may have an arch or not. All the above critical things we can say about them .

That night a good friend of mine shared a story with us. In that story she said her feet have lead her to the many places, situations, and people in her life. Some good some bad, but they have lead her all her life. So she takes care of them.

My question to you and myself…Where will your feet lead you next?

Thank you Brie!!

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I used to think that when someone said they needed space that it was a negative thing. Often I would take offense to it. Most recently I looked up the meaning of space and part of the meaning is “expanse which is free”

In my own life I have taken myself either out a situation to gain space or just to be free within myself. I was better for it.

So in a nutshell take that time or space that you need from whatever or whomever it is😏

Something that I’m learning is, there’s always going to be some trial or set back in my life. More rainy days thank rainbows and sunshine.

The question is… How will I respond when those clouds roll in??

On a daily basis you will use a door to close, open, crack, even lock. Doors can open a room to a party, your favorite restaurant, even to a movie. There are millions of possibilities. The question I want to pose is.. what if you open the wrong door?? Opening up a door to a job that will make you happy financially but will cause you to work crazy hours with no life. Or a door that leads to a marriage/dating relationship that ended and that person wants to try again. What would you say? What would you do? Some doors should not be left cracked, they are meant to be shut for good.

Choose Wisely

Just gonna leave this here😏

Was listening to this song on my way to work this morning, and just started Feelin all the things that have changed in my life and what’s to come.

Dat Feelin of divorce. Dat feeling of transitioning into a single woman and all that it comes with. Dat Feelin of 2023 coming around the corner and all the possibilities to come.

Dat Feelin of knowing in this new chapter of mine, I will be utterly happy without reason.

What’s’ going to give you Dat Feelin?

#ChrisDave&TheDrumhedz